Self-destruction

As for “self-destruction,”

What should I do with my past mistakes/faults which I could not make amend mentally and situation-wise directly at that time?

The last card I picked at a fortune-telling was “forgiving myself.” It can be way overdue now so that I should be able to forgive myself. I think I have already paid an enough painful price for it.

I never be planning on any such mistakes from now on. However, I feel distressed whether or not I should do something else when I hear the things like “self-destruction.”

Please let me know what you think. m(._.)m

A.　It is pretty easy (to solve the issue and avoid self-destruction). Let’s recall the time when you did the mistake/fault.

What was the other person doing?
How did he/she look at you? Was he/she smiling? or upsetting?
or looking sad?
What were you doing then?

Then, please do apologize him/her “I am sorry” as it was just happening. If it was for your parents, please do so with hanging on to them.

Please tell him/her everything, all your excuses, why you did it, what you did not like about him/her, etc., etc… tell everything as your heart desires. It is totally fine to cry and/or get angry.

After that, please look at him/her slowly.
Does his/her face look different?
What does he/she say to you?

When you feel settled again, please say “Thank you, and good-bye.”
Then, take a deep breath and come back here.

That’s all.

Thank you for your question.

— from Questions by beginners week 11
August 15th, 2017
(初心者用：　自己破壊について)
Original entry in Japanese

[Translated and edited by Shire]