As for “self-destruction,”
What should I do with my past mistakes/faults which I could not make amend mentally and situation-wise directly at that time?
The last card I picked at a fortune-telling was “forgiving myself.” It can be way overdue now so that I should be able to forgive myself. I think I have already paid an enough painful price for it.
I never be planning on any such mistakes from now on. However, I feel distressed whether or not I should do something else when I hear the things like “self-destruction.”
Please let me know what you think. m(._.)m
A. It is pretty easy (to solve the issue and avoid self-destruction). Let’s recall the time when you did the mistake/fault.
What was the other person doing?
How did he/she look at you? Was he/she smiling? or upsetting?
or looking sad?
What were you doing then?
Then, please do apologize him/her “I am sorry” as it was just happening. If it was for your parents, please do so with hanging on to them.
Please tell him/her everything, all your excuses, why you did it, what you did not like about him/her, etc., etc… tell everything as your heart desires. It is totally fine to cry and/or get angry.
After that, please look at him/her slowly.
Does his/her face look different?
What does he/she say to you?
When you feel settled again, please say “Thank you, and good-bye.”
Then, take a deep breath and come back here.
Thank you for your question.
— from Questions by beginners week 11
August 15th, 2017
Original entry in Japanese
[Translated and edited by Shire]